I understand. Be "affected mainly or solely with itself", a sort of thing seems to be doing beef jerky, but it is always the case?
I do not think so.
The "screw, sucker!" Diversity of merit is the critical egoism, but what is the kind of selfishness which simply means that you take care of yourself?
I immersed myself in it with a client the other day. She was reluctant to take some time well-deserved holiday at work. She was greedy, guilty, selfish, take your time when his colleagues have to cover their workload and it was gone.
"You mean, as he has done for them when they were on holiday?" I asked.
We talk about feeling bad for simply claim what is rightfully theirs, and the word "selfish" kept popping up.
This word often comes with many of my clients who have difficulty reconciling work and personal care, and are burning dangerously close. So the question is: What's wrong with being selfish, anyway? With you put first?
What's wrong with taking your vacation time? What is the problem of not be the last to leave the office every night? What is it doing wrong with no cost of his colleagues?
I do not feel comfortable.
I feel guilty.
I feel greedy.
It is selfish.
These are typical reactions.
What do you think will happen when you put the first place?
It may seem to be selfish.
And?
Someone might not like it.
And?
Someone might not like me.
BINGO.
being seen as selfish Fear is often the fear of not being loved. It seeks approval. To work hard to ensure that no panting or waves to make. You are careful to step on the toes that looks good, but is not disinterested, it's no wonder - defense against rejection.
Unless this kind of self-defense passive does not work very well because we really never get what you want. Everyone loves them, because everyone has his way. They are easy, courteous ... friendly. So are so friendly are like May finger constantly stuck robbery in the hole of the office, teeth through his forced smile and waving passersby.
I wish I loved to work. I want for me than anything together look good and are reliable and will be happy to take care of the team. But how can you expect to get what you want (and deserve) when you get up and ask - unless you're a little selfish?
It is as if we are still waiting for permission to finally get what we deserve our recognition, our reward, our day in the sun. But the truth is that sometimes on this day only comes because it is made and get there. They claim.
Be a little selfish for not only is good; It is also good for the rest of his team. A work culture where people are pushed to the limit until it is burned unsustainable. Not even close. People working for you watching him. They are afraid to go home on time or take their vacation time, because their actions send a message.
Your actions say that is what is required. It gently. To do this, long enough, and you will have a burning device, sick, quitting smoking, or responsible zoning as zombies.
It's time to take your finger off the embankment and sit down first. Get a little selfish. You need to keep your computer.
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